Considering that Jerry and Esther Hicks published an entire additional book on this concept (The Vortex), I was a little surprised how this message has been consistent since the very beginning of “Abraham’s” teachings. The concept we are discussing today is the idea that there is not a single person in your life today (nor has there ever a person who WAS in your life in the past) that wasn’t there because YOU invited them into your experience.
This is one of the hardest concepts for most people to accept when it comes to accepting the “Law of Attraction”. Often people will say things like, “I didn’t asked to be molested as a child.” Or, “I didn’t ask for an abusive spouse who beat me emotionally and physically for ten years”. Basically, people generally refuse to accept that somehow they themselves are responsible for everything that happens to them even the bad things. But what if it were true?
While it might be hard to fathom how a child could ask to be abused, the solution could be that the decision about that experience was made long before you coming into physical existence. What if, for example, while in a spiritual state you decided you wanted to learn about childhood abuse to better understand what it is like for the victim. And what if, you were allowed to create for yourself a first hand experiential knowledge of it by becoming an abused child yourself? It would make sense in THAT scenario, you yourself designed your physical experience to learn first hand what it is like. And, what if in order to understand the experience you had to forget that you yourself CHOSE that experience? While it doesn’t make sense to those who believe we start existing when we are born and finish existing when we die, it might make sense to those who believe in some form of reincarnation.
Very recently a friend of mine was reflecting on the fact that I continually find myself in the very situations I don’t want to be in. For example, I have a fear of being cheated on and yet have been repeatedly cheated on. I am a huge believer in personal freedom that people have a right to privacy and yet I worked for over a decade for the intelligence community who it can be argued do not in the slightest believe in privacy and want to see everything you do and secretly spy on you. I also don’t particularly like children and avoid them like the plague and yet now I work for a school district surrounded by children.
My friend laughed and asked, how is it you keep having the very experiences you so desperately want to avoid? That is a great question but perhaps the key to answering that is to accept that I must have invited this situation into my life and ask what it is I need to learn from it.